The Scorpio partner - Scorpio Compatibility

Enough has been written about Scorpio's famous passion to make further descriptions redundant. These descriptions aren't strictly accurate either. Scorpios do indeed possess passion in abundance. But the passion may not necessarily be expressed in the obvious way. Sexuality, for Scorpio, is a gateway, a means of reaching a different order of experience. It isn't just a physical release.

Sex and love are bound up with a longing for some kind of transformation which no ordinary relationship can provide. Call it what you like - a mystical experience, a taste of the depths, a surrender to something greater than oneself - it has more to do with the soul than with the body. The Scorpio partner has a capacity for enduring, indestructible loyalty and love. He's capable of acts of great self- sacrifice. There's a touch of fanaticism in him, and this can permeate his relationships as well as his spiritual and political attitudes.


Scorpios don't paddle in shallow pools. They dive into depths well over their heads. Sadly, that fanaticism, unleashed in a relationship, can sometimes breed extreme suspicion and absolute possessiveness. That is, if the Scorpio is in love. If he isn't, and the magic gateway into the upper (or lower) realms isn't available, you're liable to be confronted with real emotional ice.

The Scorpio partner's biggest problem is the need to be in control. This can show in some pretty unattractive ways. Like having too much pride to apologise when he's done something really stupid. Or displaying implacable resentment and "punishing" you (with silence and an atmosphere so thick and dark you can cut it with a knife) without telling you what you've done wrong. Or finding subtle ways to test you, because he doesn't really trust you. You'll rarely get to hear just how much you mean to a Scorpio partner, but you can bet that, the less you hear, the deeper his love.

On the other hand, Scorpios have little respect for someone who won't fight back. The Scorpio partner has to win, but don't hand victory to him on a plate. Not surprisingly, crises are endemic in Scorpio's relationships. That is, if you haven't got one of those repressed Scorpios where everything seethes inside but all you see is an occasional wisp of steam. If you've got one of those, beware. Send your Scorpio to a therapist to release the pressure. It won't be much fun if it blows up at you.

What's really rare and wonderful is that the Scorpio partner has an incredible capacity for understanding you. Since he misses very little, he knows a lot about your deepest motivations very quickly. If you don't like that sort of honesty in a relationship, choose another sign. But if love means something more to you than hanging about the disco chattering, Scorpios have a lot to offer. A relationship with a Scorpio promises nothing less than transformation.

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Probing is Scorpio's favourite pastime. A suspicious Scorpio isn't above scanning the telephone numbers in your little black book while you're in the bath, or checking the receipts in your wallet. Some Scorpios even become professional detectives, or forensic pathologists. But whatever games are being played, for the Scorpio partner a relationship is alive and important every hour of every day, not something which can be placed on the shelf while he gets on with something else.

Some people think possessiveness is something vaguely pathological or ideologically "wrong", and we should all go around saying, "Whatever makes you happy makes me happy." The Scorpio partner is more likely to say, "If you're happy without me, you'll pay dearly for it." To Scorpio, possessiveness is as natural as breathing. Scorpio feelings are intense. They take a long time learning to trust, but then they don't let go easily. Some Scorpios harden their hearts because of fear of humiliation, and allow only superficial encounters into their life. But that's a Scorpio on the run.

No one experiences a relationship with a Scorpio without changing. Whether it endures or ends, you'll become more self-aware and look at life more deeply. Don't expect all sweetness and light. Some very wise people have said that life is made up of both light and dark, and only a fool believes it to be otherwise. And Scorpio is no fool.