Scorpio Love and Relationship
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Scorpio is a sign that is "destined" to experience a relationship, even though their model of relationship is never simple but must involve something powerful and intense that makes them deeply deal with the different sides of their being. In this sign, relationships change their essence, are no longer superficial but give life to something transformative for both people involved, which allows a rebirth. There are lots of energies involved, going in two different directions: getting deeply and magically in touch with the other, out of curiosity and a genuine desire for knowledge; but immediately after that, detaching from the other to come back to your Self; this dichotomy on one hand causes a deep feeling of distress, but on the other hand, challenges you not to give in, because it is known that a new approach will involve new knowledge and a renewed return to your Self.
In the psyche of Scorpio natives we always find these two opposite trends: the need for intimacy and closeness – which every Scorpio desperately looks for in the people they meet and they are attracted to – something that can’t be restricted to the “mental” sphere, and just because of that the natives know that every relationship will be experienced as something totally vital in which they will put all their powerful energies; the second trend is as seductive as the first one, and is an energy that analyses and control all that is going on outside and inside so that, if needed, they can always hold back and avoid being completely overwhelmed by the other’s power.
The relationship for this sign is played on the razor’s edge of "I let myself go or I’m in control and hold back”, and this often becomes the main dilemma of the psyche. If they accept to get involved, they know that it will be total and intense and that they will have to let go of control issues and open up to the other, and to their subconscious as well; they also know that within this subtle game, they will have the chance to go beyond what they know about themselves and their personality, just because it is only by totally getting involved that the Ego lets down its guard and lets hidden and repressed things emerge; but they also know well that, when they let their guard down, they could be deeply hurt. If they refuse to get involved, they know that they can stay in control but the relationship will never really take off, which is a kind of “death” for the natives who need to “assess the state of their boundaries”; otherwise, they know there won’t be great external threats, but they will also feel incomplete, “half alive”.
Basically, each Scorpio knows that you can’t really know yourself without taking a risk and opening up to possible threats: life lies behind the acceptance of this risk.
Scorpio knows that life only lies in the “connection with the other”, but they also know that the other is not only something that is outside of themselves but also inside, and could be not so easy to delve into it.
That is why Scorpio natives are very much interested in the intimate relationship, both psychological and emotional, but also in sexuality, which is the main tool to get truly in touch with the soul.<br>
Nothing can be light at this point, because they know that, no matter how their relationship goes, they will be individually and uniquely affected and that only if everything is ok, it will turn out to be a creative act.
Scorpios need to "get lost to find their true Self” to look into the” darkness to find the light” and this is their major drama, which often leads them to lose confidence in themselves, to think that they do not have enough resources and therefore to be afraid of falling prey to the other and the power they inevitably have to temporarily give them.
In the relationship the natives must find their denied side but also their truth, which can’t be written by the other but that, passing through the other, lies within them; the continuous urging to explore and go beyond is a real challenge for their psyche, which on one hand compulsively pushes their instincts but on the other hand, traps them in the fear of being deeply vulnerable.
Actually, the stage of the relationship at this level must involve the acknowledgement of the vulnerability of the Ego: there is no other way, and this is the medicine they have to swallow to be reborn.
Scorpios know that they can’t approach the other without getting exposed, so sooner or later must get into this tunnel; when they manage to do it, they become an amazing lover, brave and sensitive, ready to enter the deepest dynamics of the psyche to question them and themselves, going into the jungle that was named “the Underworld” in the myths, to be victorious and able to get to know something more about themselves, able to offer the other a real "participation mystique", to meet the other’s soul because they meet and rejoined theirs. At that point it will all be irresistible, ecstatic and magical, because these are the gifts of the soul.
The relationship for Scorpio recalls that condition of "transcendence" that only occurs when each one takes on the disease that shares with the other, so that they can go together on the same path that will lead them to transformation and psychic and emotional union based on personal power, through which you can give yourself fully to the other because there is no other way of “being connected”.
Each one will reveal their true self to the other and, through this hard but fruitful process, will be able to better understand their predispositions, but above all the deep motivations that inspire their actions, so that they can adjust them to the needs of the Self.
There is no middle ground in this journey, you can either set off and be reborn or reject it and begin to go backward, which is experienced as something like death.
The shadow of Scorpio is strong when they hold back, when they don’t give themselves and when out of fear they end up manipulating and managing what does not belong to them and they have no power on; this will be just an illusion since the Ego won’t have trump cards to play in the game against the Self.
In the psyche of Scorpio natives we always find these two opposite trends: the need for intimacy and closeness – which every Scorpio desperately looks for in the people they meet and they are attracted to – something that can’t be restricted to the “mental” sphere, and just because of that the natives know that every relationship will be experienced as something totally vital in which they will put all their powerful energies; the second trend is as seductive as the first one, and is an energy that analyses and control all that is going on outside and inside so that, if needed, they can always hold back and avoid being completely overwhelmed by the other’s power.
The relationship for this sign is played on the razor’s edge of "I let myself go or I’m in control and hold back”, and this often becomes the main dilemma of the psyche. If they accept to get involved, they know that it will be total and intense and that they will have to let go of control issues and open up to the other, and to their subconscious as well; they also know that within this subtle game, they will have the chance to go beyond what they know about themselves and their personality, just because it is only by totally getting involved that the Ego lets down its guard and lets hidden and repressed things emerge; but they also know well that, when they let their guard down, they could be deeply hurt. If they refuse to get involved, they know that they can stay in control but the relationship will never really take off, which is a kind of “death” for the natives who need to “assess the state of their boundaries”; otherwise, they know there won’t be great external threats, but they will also feel incomplete, “half alive”.
Basically, each Scorpio knows that you can’t really know yourself without taking a risk and opening up to possible threats: life lies behind the acceptance of this risk.
Scorpio knows that life only lies in the “connection with the other”, but they also know that the other is not only something that is outside of themselves but also inside, and could be not so easy to delve into it.
That is why Scorpio natives are very much interested in the intimate relationship, both psychological and emotional, but also in sexuality, which is the main tool to get truly in touch with the soul.<br>
Nothing can be light at this point, because they know that, no matter how their relationship goes, they will be individually and uniquely affected and that only if everything is ok, it will turn out to be a creative act.
Scorpios need to "get lost to find their true Self” to look into the” darkness to find the light” and this is their major drama, which often leads them to lose confidence in themselves, to think that they do not have enough resources and therefore to be afraid of falling prey to the other and the power they inevitably have to temporarily give them.
In the relationship the natives must find their denied side but also their truth, which can’t be written by the other but that, passing through the other, lies within them; the continuous urging to explore and go beyond is a real challenge for their psyche, which on one hand compulsively pushes their instincts but on the other hand, traps them in the fear of being deeply vulnerable.
Actually, the stage of the relationship at this level must involve the acknowledgement of the vulnerability of the Ego: there is no other way, and this is the medicine they have to swallow to be reborn.
Scorpios know that they can’t approach the other without getting exposed, so sooner or later must get into this tunnel; when they manage to do it, they become an amazing lover, brave and sensitive, ready to enter the deepest dynamics of the psyche to question them and themselves, going into the jungle that was named “the Underworld” in the myths, to be victorious and able to get to know something more about themselves, able to offer the other a real "participation mystique", to meet the other’s soul because they meet and rejoined theirs. At that point it will all be irresistible, ecstatic and magical, because these are the gifts of the soul.
The relationship for Scorpio recalls that condition of "transcendence" that only occurs when each one takes on the disease that shares with the other, so that they can go together on the same path that will lead them to transformation and psychic and emotional union based on personal power, through which you can give yourself fully to the other because there is no other way of “being connected”.
Each one will reveal their true self to the other and, through this hard but fruitful process, will be able to better understand their predispositions, but above all the deep motivations that inspire their actions, so that they can adjust them to the needs of the Self.
There is no middle ground in this journey, you can either set off and be reborn or reject it and begin to go backward, which is experienced as something like death.
The shadow of Scorpio is strong when they hold back, when they don’t give themselves and when out of fear they end up manipulating and managing what does not belong to them and they have no power on; this will be just an illusion since the Ego won’t have trump cards to play in the game against the Self.